Helping your Children Honor an Absent Father

Melody Merritt, KGM Team Member

“A wise woman builds her house, but a foolish woman tears her house down with her own hands.”  Proverbs 14:1

Growing up I saw my mom model love, respect, and honor to my father as a husband.  My dad was of the generation that worked hard, provided for the family, yet was not demonstrative with words.  But I knew that he loved me and it was easy to honor him.

My parents also taught me the Ten Commandments from God’s Word.   The fourth commandant says, “Honor your father and your mother that your days may be long in the land that the Lord your God is giving you.” Exodus 20:12.

After I got married and had children I wanted to teach them the same godly Christian values I had been taught.  My husband and I both wanted our daughters to know they were loved.  We showed them and told them all the time.    Celebrating Mother’s Day and Father’s Day was easy and fun!

All this changed when my husband left us.    My ex became an absentee father.   It was not always been easy to teach my daughters to honor their dad.  They questioned why they should honor him when he was not being the father he should be.

It’s a very fair question.

But the bottom line is that God’s Word tells us to honor our fathers.

Over the years, God has worked in my heart to forgive my ex-husband.  As God has transformed my heart, I have been able to pray for him and my attitude has changed.  This enabled me to talk to my daughters about honoring their dad and loving him even when he was not being the dad they wanted.    As we looked at God’s Word together,  they began to pray for God to help them to love and honor their father.

My daughters are now adults.   I recently asked my oldest about loving your father when it’s not easy.    Her advice:  to choose to believe God and to do what He says.   These Scriptures gave her strength and wisdom.

  • To forgive him –  Ephesians 4:32
  • To let go of any bitterness – Ephesians 4:22
  • To pray for him –  1 Timothy 2:1
  • To verbally respect and compliment him. Proverbs 15:1
  • To see your dad the way God sees Him.  1 Peter 2:9-17

It is not always easy to honor our husbands even when there is not a divorce involved.  Our children learn from watching our actions and reactions.   Our decisions to respect, love and honor will significantly impact our children.  With that in mind, what are your children learning from you each day…

  • Do you roll your eyes when your husband speaks?
  • Do you go behind his back and do things he has asked you not to do?
  • Are you putting your (ex) husband down in front of your children?


  • Do you praise his good decisions?
  • Are you gracious when he makes bad decisions?
  • Do you honor his authority in front of the kids, disagreeing with him only in private?
  • Are you praying for your ex-husband and showing respect before your children?

Our children are watching.  When we show respect to their fathers, our children will respect them as well.

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Studying God’s Word with Confidence

 Allyson King, KGM Team Member

Now [the Bereans] … received the message [of salvation through faith in Christ] with great eagerness, examining the Scriptures daily to see if these things were so.  Acts 17:11 (AMP)

Have you ever heard a sermon or teaching that sounded too good to be true?  Or have you heard someone who quoted a verse to prove their point and you wondered if that was what it really said?  Or maybe you were reading the Bible in your quiet time and something convicted you, but you wondered if you were reading the passage correctly…

In my experience, many people assume that they could never get the same insights from Scripture that a pastor or Bible teacher finds.  But the truth is, all believers have the same Guide to studying Gods Wordthe Holy Spirit!  The Holy Spirit will lead you as you ask the Lord to help you see the truth of what He is saying. 

Jesus promised His followers, But when the Spirit of Truth comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak his own words, but he will speak only what he hears, and he will tell you what is to come.  The Spirit of Truth will bring glory to Me, because he will take what I have to say and tell it to you.  All that the Father has is Mine. That is why I said that the Spirit will take what I have to say and tell it to you.  (John 16:13-15 NLT)

This a promise for all believers to claim!   Our feelings can be all over the place and make us doubt Gods Word.  However, when we look at Scripture in an organized way, we can confirm that we are hearing correctly and have confidence that it is God speaking through His Word. 

One popular way to study Gods Word is called Inductive Study.  This is simply a method that uses a 3-step approach.

   Observation: What does the passage say?

   Interpretation: What does the passage mean?

   Application: What does the passage mean to me?

Working through a passage with a simple guide and some encouragement does wonders to give you confidence in your personal study of Gods Word. 

This summer, KGM will be offering workshops to equip and encourage women in their faith walk. 

The first of these workshops is Studying Gods Word with Confidence.”   It’s coming up soon!  It will be Tuesday morning, June 27th at 10 am.  It’s a hands-on practice workshop.  You will leave with an outline along with tips and resource recommendations to help with your personal study. 

So like the Bereans, you too can eagerly accept God’s message and be confident that what you see is true!

5 Summer Workshops to Grow your Faith Walk!


Studying God’s Word with Confidence,  June 27

Conversations that have Impact, July 11

Establishing a Daily Quiet Time, July 27

Leading a Bible Study Group with Different Personalities, August 2

Growing in your Prayer Life through Journaling, August 3

Click HERE to learn more and to register
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God will Never Forsake You


Because of YOU, more and more women are living the Bible.  Women are connecting the dots that God is not “just a building to sit in on Sunday,” but that He’s real and that His Word is relevant in marriage, parenting, home life, and professionally.  





Our annual Golf Tournament is an event we eagerly anticipate.  It’s one of our biggest fundraisers of the year. We begin months in advance to make sure everything is ready for the big day.  This year, however, due to rain last Monday, June 5th, I had no other choice than to cancel.

Saying ‘cancelling was hard’ is an understatement.  I kept thinking the rain would clear…  That God was going to intervene.  After all, the KGM Team and I had been specifically and boldly praying about the weather for months.   I had even fasted, the few weeks prior to the tournament, praying and believing we were going to have the best year yet.

But God chose to answer in a different way.

The morning following the cancelled tournament,  the weather was picture perfect.   With the sun beaming through the window, I was a tad bit peeved as I read my Bible.  Transparently speaking, I had felt like God had forsaken me the day before.

‘Why did it have to rain yesterday and be sunny today?   You’re a BIG God.  Don’t you care about the revenue we missed in funding / growing Your ministry?’

Ever so quietly, He seemed to illuminate the words of Deuteronomy 31.  Twice, Moses told Joshua that God “would never leave him nor forsake him.” Deuteronomy 31:5-8 

It occurred to me:  for Moses to say this twice in the same breath, he must have experienced moments in his leadership when it felt like God had forsaken him.    Otherwise, why would Moses be warning Joshua of a feeling that would seem like a reality?

And yes, that morning, I felt forsaken.

I realize this must sound really silly and mundane to some of you.  “Rain on the day of fundraiser… Really, Tara?  It’s not a life or death situation.”

So true!

But in our corner of the world, it’s the biggest fundraiser of the year.  And the rain took a bite out of the revenue that supports this ministry.

In that moment, with these mentioned thoughts, it dawned on me that the cancellation was not God forsaking us, but blessing us!   A blessing I would have never asked for.  The blessing is an opportunity to trust God more intently.   It’s an opportunity for KGM to experience God in a new, fresh way.  Which at the end of the day, will make me a stronger leader and the organization stronger as a whole. I’m excited for what is ahead for KGM, how this ministry can reach other women, how God will perfectly provide and how this ministry glorifies and builds His Kingdom.

As you read this today, if you’re in a situation where you feel like God has forsaken you, I encourage you to sit in His presence.  Feelings are so fickle.  Yet God will give you a fresh perspective that will be salve to your hurt or confused heart.

As He reminded me this week, I share with you,  “The Lord Himself goes before you and will be with you; He will never leave you nor forsake you.  Do not be afraid or discouraged.”  Deuteronomy 31:8

God will not forsake you, sweet friend.  He, Himself, will go before you in times of uncertainty, confusion and disappointment.  We never have to be afraid of what the future might hold, because we know that He holds the future.

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Do you Ever Question God’s Love?

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“Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed.”  Isaiah 54:10

I remember always thinking God was mad at me.  My thinking was, if you were to weigh my sin on a scale, the bad definitely outweighed the good.

Even though I had repented, I couldn’t help but question God’s love.  How could He love someone like me?  Certainly, He’s holding a grudge, I’d think.

Then I read Isaiah 54:10.  It was as if God leaned out of heaven and said, “Tara, I know all you’ve done.  Despite all your sin, My love for you is unfailing and will never be shaken. Nor will your salvation be removed.”

To know that I was loved this much by God, warmed my heart and refreshed my soul.  Since reading this verse, I’ve never questioned God’s love for me again.

2.  “I have loved you with an everlasting love; I have drawn you with loving-kindness.”  Jeremiah 31:3

3.  “See, I have engraved you on the palms of My hands; your walls are ever before Me.”  Isaiah 49:16

4.  “Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered.  Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”  Luke 12:7

5.  “If God is for us, who can be against us?  He who did not spare His own Son, but gave Him up for us all – how will He not also, along with Him, graciously give us all things.”  Romans 8:31-32

You, too, are loved with an ever-lasting love.

God doesn’t hold grudges.  In fact, when we repent of our sin, the Bible says He removes our sin as far as the east is from the west.  (Psalm 103:12)  We can be assured that no matter what was in our past, it does not have to dictate our future.  His unfailing love for us will never be shaken.

So the next time worry or anxiety knocks on the door of your heart…  The next time you question if God really loves you,  remind yourself that the very hairs of your head are all numbered.  You don’t have to be afraid, for God is for you, not against you.  Your name is engraved on the palms of His hand. 

YOU, my sweet sister, are LOVED.


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Flourish in the Midst of a Busy Schedule, Ellen Stevens

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Life can become so busy and full, (especially during the month of May) that it’s easy to become overwhelmed.   As a wife, mother and working woman, I often face:

  • Demands and needs from my job, family, friends, ministry, church
  • A schedule that seems to operate at break-neck speed

Which causes

  • My heart to grow tired and weary 
  • Sometimes wounded or offended
  • At other times, fearful and afraid… Unloved and unappreciated

I’ve learned, from personal experience, that this is when we must run to the One, who alone, is wise.  We must block out time to seek Him afresh.   When operating on a busy, hectic schedule we must be intentional about creating a boundary for 30 minutes; an hour or even more.  No email or texting or social media.  Just me and my Bible, fellowshipping with the Lord. 

I can’t explain it, but following my time with Him, I’m a different woman.  My circumstances are the same, but I’m different.  Truly, Jesus restores and heals my soul.  He gives me fresh energy and perspective for the day.

In Jude 20, we are commanded to maintain our lives with God.  “But you beloved, build yourselves up in your most holy faith, praying in the Holy Spirit, keep yourselves in the love of God, looking for the mercy of our Lord Jesus Christ unto eternal life.” 

“Looking for the mercy…”   Don’t you love that about our Savior?!

Such great mercy Jesus gives us to live, not just an ordinary life, but an extraordinary life!  He will restore your soul and fill you to overflow with His unfailing love.  I stand amazed at ALL He does to help me not just survive, but flourish in the midst of an extremely hectic schedule.  💗

Ellen Stevens, KGM Team Member

Thank you to our 2017 Corporate Sponsors!

On June 5th, we’ll be hosting our 6th Annual Golf Classic! 

You may not be a golfer or care anything about the game, but we could still use your help!

Prayer – Please pray for the weather.  Pray that it will not be too hot & humid, but beautiful weather – that the Lord may be glorified through even the weather

Snacks – Protein or breakfast bars; Individually wrapped nuts or trail mix (from Costco is best); Lance Crackers; chips or candy (enough for 65 golfers)

Raffle Items

$100 Tee sponsor – (Signage at tee)  The Name of your business or Organization

$250 Putting Contest Sponsor – Taken by Moon Audio
(Signage at competition green)

$250 Beverage Cart Sponsor – Taken by Renaissance Services
(Signage on beverage cart)

$250 Driving Range Sponsor –  The Name of your business or Organization
(Signage at entrance to driving range) 

Thank you for your help!  We’re grateful.

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